Thursday, February 16, 2006

I Wanna Be Loved By You...

...just you, nobody else but you, dear self...

I was pondering upon the nature of "trying to appeal to people" and the works. And I noticed a lot of people, including myself, who want to appeal to people whom they think of as annoying, or at least not belonging to their personal mindframe. Well, I've got news for you, self: It's futile. As futile as trying to explain Quantum Physics to Schroedinger's cat, no matter how much you think it should concern them...

Take someone you think of as "stupid" for example, at least in the subject at hand... You may have a reason to appeal to them, either because you think they should or would care, or out of the goodness of your heart, or even because you want to make money off them. I'm telling you now, chances are that you'll fail even harder and more painfully the more you try.

That's not just because you'll have invested less effort and thus less to lose at the end, oh no. Nor is it because of the simple truth that most people subconsciously find absolutes more appealing, whether they're good or bad. The reason I've personally held onto as more "real" than any is simply this: "Stupid" people, or at least people who don't care enough about the subject, will either disagree with you or disagree with you anyway, and you surely can't please everyone, however hard you may try. And "smart" people, or at least people who are in your own wavelength, will appreciate you much more if you voice their opinions like they voice them in their own heads, if you have arguments for what you believe in and against what you don't, and if you're willing to talk these over and possibly even reconsider if the other side has arguments that answer yours.

It makes sense to me, however you look at it. You can even support the fact that you like to fart loudly for chrissakes, with arguments, and you'll most probably be right, at least for some. And people out there WILL identify with you, and they'll appreciate the fact that you voiced their concerns.

And no, I'm not telling you to be a bastard, especially if that's not something that makes you happy. I'm telling you to be OK with yourself, with the things you believe, if you have reasons to believe them, and feel right about voicing them and about acting the way that you do, if you have reasons for doing so. And if someone disagrees, well, listen to them, and if you feel they have a point then reconsider. But don't count the fact that they disagree as them immediately having a point. Just don't. Just tell them I said so or something.

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